Blogger Anna Strode had geen idee wat 'pregnancy shaming' inhield, tot ze zwanger was van haar vierde kind: op Instagram kreeg ze een storm aan kritiek over zich heen.
'Mensen reageerden met: 'Ben je nu wéér zwanger?!' En 'Stop toch eens met het maken van baby's!'.'
'Wees gewoon aardig'
Om die kritiek voor eens en altijd achter zich te laten, postte ze een foto op Instagram met daarbij de nodige uitleg. 'Ja, deze baby was gepland', schrijft ze. 'En ja, ik geniet van mijn kinderen, ook nu ze ouder worden.' Zolang als Anna zich kan herinneren, wilde ze al vier kinderen en ook haar man had die droom. Maar dat de blogger hierdoor zoveel negatieve reacties zou krijgen, had ze niet gedacht. 'Weet je? Je kunt niet iedereen tevreden stellen. Dus wees gewoon aardig mensen, wees alsjeblieft aardig.'
I had absolutely no idea that "pregnancy shaming" existed until, I announced we had baby #4 on the way. You may have noticed I've been a little quite on Instagram the last 7 or so months. I've been busy and sick but also a little anxious when posting. Why?! Because over the past 7 months I have been criticised, judged and blatantly questioned why we have chosen to have another baby. I've had comments and inbox messages saying all sorts of things from "wow, surely you're not pregnant AGAIN 😳" to "STOP HAVING BABIES" to people asking if I don't believe in contraception and making rude comments about our children being so close in age and that I won't enjoy them. So to be clear... Yes - I do believe in contraception, I was on it for manyyyyyy years. YES this baby WAS planned. We actually tried for a few months before successfully falling pregnant. And YES, I thoroughly enjoy my children even though they are close in age. I LOVE it in fact! I always wanted 4 children. For as long as I can remember, 4 just seemed like the number for me. I also all imagined them being close in age. I was blessed that my husband wanted the same. I never imagined that doing what my hubby and I wanted to do, would upset so many people or affect them in anyway. I mean, I don't understand why us having another baby would worry anyone so much? Anyone would think I asked the "pregnancy shamers" to wake all night and feed my baby, change dirty nappies, entertain my toddlers. But no, nothing will change for them so why the negativity towards me and my families choices?! I've decided some people are just negative and that's that... you can't please everyone. Be kind people, please be kind ✨ Has anyone else ever experienced pregnancy shaming?! #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodunfiltered #momlife #pregnancy #mumsofinstagram